A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex
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Transform your marriage and enjoy your spouse again when you share the mental load and end the cycle of stress and resentment.
Relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip helps couples view the mental load–the endless and mostly invisible work of managing a household and family–as a shared enemy to conquer versus a problem they have with each other, offering practical solutions for navigating the most common pain points couples struggle with.
Usually a few years after “I do”—once the reality of family life hits—many couples find themselves at each other’s throats because they don’t know how to navigate the mental and emotional work of managing a household together. They worry that they’ll always be fighting about who should do the dishes or pick up the balloons for the party, but don’t know how to begin talking about their frustrations without pointing fingers.
In A Better Share, Dr. Morgan Cutlip offers you practical advice that goes beyond getting your spouse to pick up the slack and focuses on the unique perspectives and experiences of each partner, enabling both of you to feel seen and heard. She helps you leave behind resentment and anxiety and begin to:
Understand why the mental load primarily falls on women and how it impacts sexual desireShare perspectives, expectations, ownership, and accountabilityUse actionable plans for divvying up tasks and teaching the next generation how to share the mental load
Through research and stories based on real couples, A Better Share guides you out of the endless stress and resentment cycle and into a relationship where sharing is caring, having fun together is a priority, and great sex isn’t a thing of the past.
From the Publisher
Publisher : Thomas Nelson
Publication date : April 8, 2025
Language : English
Print length : 272 pages
ISBN-10 : 1400239672
ISBN-13 : 978-1400239672
Item Weight : 13.6 ounces
Dimensions : 6.17 x 0.86 x 9.32 inches
9 reviews for A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex
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Emily –
This Book Will Save Your Marriage!!!!!
This book discusses the issue in marriages that no one is talking about. I remember early in marriage seeing people getting divorced after 25 years and I couldn’t imagine how a couple could get to that point. Well,17 years into marriage and I get it! I have spent years trying to put into words how I felt in our marriage which just turned into a circular conversation which got us nowhere.I read the book first and I finally felt like someone got it and gave me a path to peace in my marriage. I then asked my husband to read the book and three chapters in he came to me and said she wrote a book about us. We now have the tools to stop the crazy circular cycle we were on and now have a path forward. I truly believe this book has done more for our marriage then counseling ever did. True understanding of the mental load by both people in a relationship is the key to a long and happy marriage.
Karissa Mueller –
âItâs not what you say, itâs how you say itâ 10/10 for Dr. Cutlipâs delivery on this topic!
Honestly, putting the words âless resentment and great sexâ on the cover was GENIUS. I ordered, it sat on the counter for less than 12 hours and when I came home, my husband had read HALF the dang thing and when he saw me reading it, asked with sincere concern âdid you save the page I was on?âI didnât ask him to read it. I wasnât trying to âhintâ that he read it. Iâve bought multiple other books on mental load or relationship with ZERO interest from him.Showing how this connects to the erosion of intimacy- in all its forms- is SO important. I think those words on the cover implicitly communicates something that provides reassurance and leads to more openness, hence, having the curiosity and taking the initiative to read.Weâre both still reading – havenât even talk about the book yet. But Iâve been sick this weekend and already noticed a different âvibeâ from my husband about so many little things. Very excited for this to be the thing that finally breaks us through 5+ years of stuck around the mental load. I can feel it.
Jeff D. –
Must read!
My husband and I both read this book and loved it. My husband said that it has fundamentally changed how he views our relationship. We had already had tons of conversations about the mental load but this book connected all the dots for him. As a result, he is more in tune with our family, taking initiative, and giving a ton of appreciation. This book has given us language and scripts to navigate tricky topics and better share the load of our home and family. 10/10!
Big Al’s Texas Western French Fries –
Absolutely phenomenal
I started listening to A Better Share by Dr. Morgan Cutlip on Audible during a couple of long drives, and honestlyâI’m blown away. Good job doesnât even begin to cut it. Dr. Cutlip speaks directly to the soul. Itâs like she put words to things Iâve felt but couldnât quite articulate. Every chapter had me nodding along, feeling seen, and thinking, âFinally, someone gets it.âThis book is raw, real, and ridiculously relatable. I canât recommend it enough to anyone whoâs ever struggled with the invisible load or just needed someone to say, âYou’re not crazy for feeling this way.â Truly one of the best things I’ve listened to this year. Thank you, Dr. Morgan, for creating something so powerful.
Stephanie Libke –
Want to get an in-depth understanding of the mental load? This is the book for you.
I heard the term mental load a couple of years ago, and this book does an amazing job of outlining what it is. As I was reading the book, I kept thinking about how I felt exactly how the author described it. One thing I like about this book is that it helps women, who carry the bulk of the mental load typically, not place the blame on their partners. Yet it explains why women typically feel the mental load, and how to work with your partner.
KimW –
Informative, helpful book
Thank you to NetGalley and Thomas Nelson for the Arc on this book.I used to read A LOT of non fiction books but got away from it a while ago. One of my goals this year is to read more of them so when I saw the title of this book, I immediately requested it. I heard the term mental share when listening to a podcast about a year ago. I didnât realize what it was but as soon as I did, well, I felt like that term spoke to me. This book was pretty much my life lately. I felt like I was being seen as I read through this. There were so many times that I was shaking my head in agreement because itâs exactly how I feel, things Iâve said and reactions Iâve received from my partner. There are so many helpful things in this book that will leave you feeling like someone gets what youâre feeling and is here to help. My only gripe with the Kindle version is sometimes the text got a little out of whack which I assume is because it was in a box or set aside on the page separately. This is just a minor gripe and doesnât detract from the book. In fact, Iâm going to buy a hard copy to refer to and hopefully get my partner to read it too. A solid four star read for me.
Jessica –
Must read for every married couple!
Every married couple (especially with kids) needs to read this book! She puts into words what we both feel, I have never felt more seen and understood! I read the hard copy and my husband willingly listened to the audio. We had great discussions (that he mainly brought up) after every few chapters. Thank you Dr. Morgan for this very helpful guide!
Michael Larsen –
Easy and insightful read
Huge fan of Dr. Cutlip and find her work transformative and so helpful. She takes common tropes and backs up solution with data- something not found in many books in this genre. I talk a lot about partnership marriage and will continue to share this resource. Canât wait to encourage my husband to read this!
Paola Godoy Barahona –
Im almost done reading it.We are in a good spot my husband and I but we have 2 babies under 2 and is likely that things change and go for worse if we dont communicate and adapt to novelties; especially since both of us used to work full time and now Im at home. So I really identified ourselves with different attitudes and behaviors that might lead to resentment. Just by being aware of certain facts and start changing the mindset, I can tell we have a better relationship. I definitely recommend this to all marriages, especially if you have kids. Relationships are like plants, you have to take care of them constantly; easier said than done, but this book helps you land it.